Love is

What love is? Well, I’m searching the answer. If I ask people, every one will start giving their own "expert views". 'Love is this', 'love is that'..... Everybody in this respect thinks him/herself the specialist. Few of them will avoid the question by saying: "sorry no idea". For few "Love is friendship". Yeah may be. But I don't support this theory completely. Coz there is so many friends of mine. But every one of them can't be my love. This theory suits only some B grade movies, I guess. Yeah may be friendship can be the beginning. But "friendship is love" No way joseeeeeeeeeee. .
There s a number of people whose experience is not only bitter in this respect. Even more. Trust me. My friend Rajiv, he had been dating with Ankita for the last 5 years. Every one used to call them, 'made 4 each other couple'. Few months ago when I went to a party (it was my friend's birthday party) in a resort, I saw Rajiv there. I was seeing him after couple of years. He was drunk. He came to me & said: “hey Mimi, you are looking gorgeous. Are you still single?" I said: "oh yeah. Why you are asking?” He said: "cool! I'm single too, you know". I thought he was drunk that was why he was saying all those bullshit. It was true that I had never seen Him alone before. I mean without Anky. I asked him, "where is Anky?" He said "Who is Anky? Are you talking about that bitch? Left me". I was shocked: "you are kidding me". He said "Nope, I don't. She left me for Sameer". I asked" Sameer? You mean Sameer Banerjee?" Rajiv said: "not only Sameer Banerjee, say the Rich Sameer Banerjee".I was really felling sorry for him. He was reminding me 'Devdas'.I said" oh I'm so sorry. But you shouldn't drink that much.” He said: "Don't stop me. Its free. I'm not drinking because of her, I'm drinking coz my bank balance is ZERO. My account is empty. I'm bankrupt because of that bitch". I was confused & asked" what do you mean?" He said:" in buying all expensive gifts for her....."I couldn't stop my laughter. Suddenly another friend of mine Avishek joined us. He said: “dude, why you panic? Just see me, I had been dating Disha for the last 4 months. Now I’m bored & left her. Simple.” Oh my goodness. These people obviously can’t answer my question.
I remember when I was 15, Shritanu, who was the 1st one who said ” I love you”to me. I asked him "why?" He said "you are beautiful". That answer was enough for me to decline him. But he was not an exception at all. Believe me for the last 10 years I've been hearing the same old thing from every single guy. Nobody could give me a satisfying answer ever.
Thats why I'm still single.
But here we are not discussing the reason of my singlehood.My friend, Andy, the Party animal. Every one calls him ‘Andy, the Rocker’. He never counted the number of his girl friends. Once I asked him: “Andy, have you ever been in true love before?” He said ”I truly love all my girl friends”. Great & straight answer. That’s why I like him the most.
Atleast he is not like some ‘Hippocrates’ who claims to know everything about love or claims to be ‘romantic’ but it is just their misconception. Just like Nilay. Keya, my friend she loves him. I know them since my childhood. But he doesn’t understand Keya. But Keya never cares that. Is that mean ‘true love’ must be unconditional? May be..……
My cousin Shreya, she is 12 years older than me & her hubby Akash, people call them “perfect couple”. Both of them are successful in there respective careers. Both of them “sail in the sea of love”. I really feel so cool when people share their secrets with me. So, I know the real story behind their ‘perfect love story’ which in my family nobody knows. Both of their relationship status is “absolutely OPEN”. Both of them know about each other. According to both of them “life is too short. So enjoy.” In this respect both of their wave lengths are same. I’m just a silent viewer. I can’t do anything for you guys or I should not. But all the best. Be happy.
Different people different stories. Shritanu( the first guy who said me ‘I love you;) Remember? Well, his wife, Sneha. Yeah he got married to a rich man’s beautiful daughter., Sneha. Extremely possessive woman. Shri is still in touch with me. He says:"I want space". I know which kind of "space" he means. Possessiveness is a part of love. The feeling of "insecurity" to loose your beloved.
But everyone’s experience is not bitter in this respect. Like my parents. My dad says: “love has become quite materialistic nowadays not like the love in our time. 24 carat real love.” For them love means “sacrifice”. Nowadays sacrifices & all that sounds ‘melodramatic’. Nobody has time to think about all that.
So, my question is still there. Love is…………!!!! Don’t know but in my point of view, may be people will think me ‘impractical’. But Love for me: it is a wonderfully thing. It is a treasure of your life. It comes to your life like fresh air & changes it drastically. Any time, any place it searches you. Someone very special only who can awake the feelings in you. Only that person can make you smile or make you cry. Love to me is just loving ‘that special person’ without any condition. Accepting some one’s good, bad & the ugly. It is very easy to accept the ‘good’ but accepting some one’s ‘bad’ & ‘ugly’……………???? That’s the biggest challenge of love. It is craziness. It doesn’t require ‘practicality’. Love means loving someone by forgetting yourself. Do you agree?